Hip Hip Hooray!


We have now entered into a new decade. Whoop Whoop.

How is it going so far with your new year resolutions? 

Hopefully by now you are beginning to gain some momentum and traction. I enjoy helping others to experience the success of achieving their goals, but first, It’s important to get things in perspective in order to experience the changes we desire.

Perhaps last year you were dissatisfied with your fitness level, were overweight, and unhappy with how you looked in the mirror or in photographs.

Or maybe you had enough of having to calculate the affordability of an important purchase, and not having money to save and to spare.

Well thankfully the old is behind us.

But If you’ve made resolutions in the past but broken them before February, I want to offer you a real solution. Without this solution you are likely experience a sense of failure which can impact negatively on your self-esteem.

Without this solution you may begin to demonstrate self-sabotaging behaviours, or even avoid setting future goals.

But with this solution, you can create consistent results and experience a feeling of greater confidence.

Imagine yourself experiencing such positive change, that It causes others to question what you are doing differently.

What am I talking about?

I’m talking about patience. Yes, patience.

I know, I know…  for most of us, the ‘P’ word is borderline profane. But seriously, hear me out on this, and for the preservation of our sanity, (and that of anyone in close proximity to us) let’s consider the benefits.

Think of anyone who has made any significant contribution throughout history or even in recent times, that has been able to achieve greatness without demonstrating patience.

“Patience is a key element of success”

Bill Gates.


·       Think of a single mother who despite misfortune never gave up.

“I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears that my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.”

J.K Rowling.


·       Think of being a co-founder of your own company, and being fired!

“I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.”

Steve Jobs.


·       Think of a young boy who wanted to play basketball but didn’t even reach the minimum height requirement, but remained diligent in the pursuit of his dream.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

Michael Jordan

Patience is possibly one of the most unrecognised elements of success in any arena.      

The dictionary defines it as:

‘the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.

an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay: to have patience with a slow learner.

quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience.’


In all our endeavours we all want to get from A to B as quickly and seamlessly as possible. But, the reality is that, in our everyday interactions, whether it is with individuals, or complex systems, we will sometimes experience unforeseen circumstances and delays.

Of course were possible we should have contingencies in place. But my advice would be to include Patience as a legitimate part of your contingency planning.

“A man who is a master of patience is master of everything else.”

 George Savile


How can you do this?

I have identified 5 key steps which will position you to master the patience you need to achieve any legitimate goal.


1.   Raise your standards.

Have a desire not just to attain the outward appearances of success, but to be a person of character, integrity and excellence.

A couple of definitions for impatience areeager desire for relief or change; And restlessness. intolerance of anything that thwarts, delays, or hinders.’

An eager desire for relief or change may seem commendable, in this culture of ‘go get it’ instant gratification, but what standard of quality do you want to achieve? What happens when we decide to cut corners, here and there? Especially if nobody will ever know?

I’m grateful for the time bound, quality standard tests required for doctors, surgeons, pilots, car manufacturers and the food industry, to name but a few.

The quality of your work, speaks of who you are. Let it convey the value you have for others. Let it be true. Let it be commendable. That’s a legitimate measure of success.

In times gone by, it is recognised that things were made to last. ‘They don’t make things like that anymore”, is an all too familiar disheartened expression. Let’s reverse this trend.


“What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy”





2.  Be realistic.

Be honest about where you are at, and the steps necessary to get to where you want to be. be willing to put in the work, and if not, admit it. It means that at this time, you really don’t want what you thought you wanted.

There is no shame in that. We don’t all want the same things in life. The competitive plane is overcrowded and overrated anyway.

Maybe you might set it as a longer term future goal, as it may need more work than you are prepared to put in at this time. But let’s not deceive ourselves.


“Don’t put the cart before the horse”

John Heywood.


3.  Be resourceful.

Seek the help of others to whom you can be accountable, and ask for constructive feedback.

You cannot do it all on your own. Within you is the help that others need, within others is the help that you need. We are all interdependent. Everything you need to achieve your dream is available.


“None of us is as smart as all of us.”

Ken Blanchard


4.  Be certain.

We all intuitively know that we were born for something ‘greater’. This is your life. Your dream. Your goals.  Follow the inner voice that directs you towards the goodness, you   innately desire. And although doubts will arise, just keep moving forward. Because the world will never benefit from our unique contribution otherwise.

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

Vincent Van Gogh


5.  Enjoy the journey.

               Action is always required. Build momentum. Levels of activity and intensity will vary from

               time to time, but you cannot stop until you are done.

               When you are certain, it will create a decisiveness, which will stand the test of time and

                overcome any discomfort and delay.

I personally have a tendency to get so engrossed and carried away by the task at hand that, I frequently experience great annoyance at any delay I encounter. It’s at these times that I have to remind myself, that the character I develop is the greatest achievement, and delay is just another opportunity to build the muscle of patience.


“To know how to wait is the great secret of success”

Joseph de Maistre